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building a family
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Long-form writing by Remi and Kendra. Organized by pillar. New essays on Sundays.

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On Sunday meetings that actually work.

We tried the 90-minute family meeting. The printed agenda. The Robert's Rules version. None of it worked. Then we tried something embarrassingly simple.

Kendra Sobomehin · April 2026 · 7 min read

Pillar 01 · Who We Are

The cost of winging it.

Most families run without a system because nobody taught them one. The chaos isn't a personality flaw. It's a systems failure.

Remi Sobomehin · April 2026 · 9 min read

Pillar 02 · The Partnership

The mental load is a systems problem, not a personality problem.

When one partner carries all of it, the other partner isn't checked out. There's just no shared external system. The fix is mechanical, not emotional.

Kendra Sobomehin · March 2026 · 8 min read

Writing onbuilding a familyon purpose.

On Sunday meetings that actually work.

The cost of winging it.

The mental load is a systems problem, not a personality problem.

Writing on
building a family
on purpose.